Secret,

The fact that therapeutically, T and Pdoc differ doesn't matter. I don't compare them, just feel cared for in different ways. I guess it's like Mom and Dad--LOL. T is definitely Mom and Pdoc is the distant Dad.

Haha--I never analyzed that before.

Oh, I wouldn't worry about that remark about unconscious alliance but I'm sure Pink can explalin it much better than me. Yeah, I know, easier said than done. But in my extremely limited experience, when T says something that stings, it does not always mean that I am doing something WRONG. It just means that his perception of a given situation is just so at that moment.

It's like I tell my students about tests, when they are freaking out either before a test or after they bombed a test. The test is merely an assessment of what you are able to retrieve (in the form the teacher requires) at that moment you put pencil to paper. It's not an assessment of how good or bad you are as a person, and it's not even really an assessment of what you know about a given topic.

What we can do is practice retrieving the information they need to perform reasonably well on the test, (in the format the teacher is likely to have on the test) to reduce anxiety.

So, maybe in one moment he wanted to communicate with you in one way and you were in another place at that time. So what?

((((Secret))))



PS Oh and my T is also in Psychology Today listings but I didn't pick him from there. I do like the idea of looking at his picture on line thought.