You remember all the instances when she was really supportive and you start building up your own instances when you're supportive of yourself :-) Look at how you presented this story and "explained" yourself and what you were feeling, etc. THAT is what is most okay and shows a good relationship budding with yourself.

"its always ok as long as you feel connected to someone...." -- work on that connection to yourself and you'll always have you there in all circumstances to help you remember its okay/gonna be okay.