I noticed that narcissistic people are really bad at giving gifts. Perhaps it's not so important, yet it's something I've noticed some time ago. I'm a 21 year old woman. A minimalist, I have very little things and I'm very restrictive when it comes to buying stuff, because I hate unnecessary things hoarded around me. I throw away everything that doesn't serve me. Everyone knows that. Makeup accessories are the only things that I can purchase without any common sense. I need many of them. I'm also always in need of money. Everyone knows that, too. I hate every time when there's an occassion to receive things, such as name days, birthdays, women's day, even children's day.

My mother, of course, almost never respects that. She never asked me if there's anything I would want. She also loves buying unnecessary stuff. She's also great at infantilizing me. Never treats me serious, no matter how bad my state is, how bad problems I have, she would just bother me with distractions like towards a 5 year old, like birds outside the window or something she had seen in the shop.

Yeah, the gifts...It's not that bad on Christmas, because she usually buys predictable yet quite useful things such as Avon shower gels, mugs and gives me money.

Yet she often comes, buying me clothing that I then pass to charity, because it's totally not my style. I don't like wearing white tshirts with cheap printings. She also buys things in the wrong sizes. Some time ago she bought me sleeping pants, even though I hate pajamas and almost never use them. I keep it just for some time and then gonna throw it away.

Each time she boughts me something, I know exactly what she's gonna say "I saw it in the story and gosh, I LIKED it so much. It's so pretty" while giggling.

She buys me colourful mugs then to see me drinking in them each time she's around, even though I didn't ask for it and don't need it. We have enough of this stuff. And we also don't have much money. By the way, I don't like colourful things.

On the last woman' day she would be like "You don't have a boyfriend or anyone like that to appreciate you, so I bought you some underwear myself".

The same thing goes for buying lots of unnecessary food and sweets, even though I don't eat them and my father has health issues and should be eating clean but she doesn't care. SHE likes it.

There's a Children's Day on 1st of June and, okay, let's say I'm still their kid so that's fine. But she bought me a funny, totally under-aged sparkling rubber toy because she considered it funny and was like "I liked it so much when I saw it" and I felt so embarassed and intimidated I almost wanted to cry, told her that I don't have where to keep it and what to do with it, so she can take this if she likes it. There are so many things I would enjoy getting.

Since I was a little kid I remember being less childish than she was. When I got a fancy toy, she would play with it with more joy than I was. It freaked me out as hell. I always felt like it's me who has to watch out for her.

I only like gifts from her when she makes me a piece of clothing I want because she's a tailor. Yet, whenever she buys me something or makes something for me, she must then take it from my drawer and show it to her guests or other family members.