Well I have had both male and female therapist, I liked my female therapist, but was going to her for the death of mom, she referred me to my T now. I remember first hearing his name, and saying to myself. I will never open up to this guy!! He is a guy!! I cannot trust them at all!! Go figure that it is easier to tell him things then it is to tell my husband. I do think it is the person, the connection, whether male or female there has to be a connection and trust!! I can talk to T about anything, and not feel embarrassed or judged, not so sure I could talk about sexuality with another female, one that hasn't been where I am.......maybe it is just my hang-up!!

I prefer a male, only because of what was said in another post, I know he won't go where I do not want him to(touching,hugging) there is compassion on both sides but it is different, my female T would always ask if it was ok for safe hugs, and I would welcome them, but the few times we touched on sex, my husband wanting it and me not after mom's death.......it just didn't feel right!! I was embarrassed to be talking to her about it.

When my T now brought up the CSA, I felt myself saying, crap here it comes, I am going to have to say something, and it wasn't nearly as hard to talk to him as I thought it would be. He took his time with me!