The way I resist the urge to move too quickly is that I have my moral values cast in concrete & I know the kind of guy who would have those same moral values is the ONLY kind of guy I would want. If not compatible...I'm not interested in the guy no matter how nice, rich, or good looking. I know exactly WHY my moral values are what they are & I hold them in a solid place that doesn't change until after I would ever get to the place I would be willing to get married.....no one can talk me out of my values or shame me out of them.

Interesting because I was married to a guy for 33 years who fit the ASD traits 100% even though not formally dx'ed. Just figured it out 7 years after I left him. Totally impossible to have an emotional connection with for the whole 33 years I was married. Couldn't figure it out & thought it was normal....my dad was the same...& all of a shudder the picture became clear. It might be good for you to get a dx so that you can learn to understand your own self better & it may make it clear the difficulties in relationships.