by asking you have started ... that is the first step .... you are exactly right ... you must start with yourself first ... my self at the current time ...I am surviving ... someday soon I hope to start living again ... or maybe for the first time ... I really am not sure .... could I suggest starting journeling ... helps me to see where I have been and gives you a handle on where you might go ... good for writers block too .... good luck ... Tigger .