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Originally Posted by shattered sanity
...i grew up with parents who flatly refused to believe in illness, or believe in emotional problems- so they sort of taught me that if i tried to be open with anyone, it was associated with even more emotional abuse
so growing up, being taught what i was, and not having any real friends, being open is hard
if someone asks me a question, maybe i'll start talking about it but not be fully open- because i'm afraid of being emotionally abused by them (i never got over it, my parents set me up for life with that fear)
if something's going on, i'm the last to say
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Shattered, I can very much relate. (I can't say if it was a matter of belief in it or not, but the elephant in the room was never acknowledged.) Openness was
not wise. Negative consequences. I've never gotten past it either.
As for disclosure, pretty minimal. Mostly neutral responses, none were surprised. A couple of dismissive responses stung (the classic "oh, everyone's BP", and "you can't be, because I've never seen you suicidal"(!!) Strange logic.) because I really expected better of them -- one was my last best friend (dead now) and the other had a schizophrenic brother. Guess there's no figuring.
Not in work situation, for sure. (Though symptomatically obvious. Very unusual situation.) I don't have friends and rarely even talk to people, so it's not generally a pressing issue. Even to casual observers, it's pretty obvious at times that
something's wrong, but they don't ask, and I don't say.