You should try not to let the offhand comments of a former boyfriend affect your self-image and self-esteem. Your new beau sounds nice. But in that too, don't rely on another's opinion of your looks or intelligence to define you. At your age, I was a lot like you, craving validation, looking for it in other people, esp. romantic interests. I know, I do know, that it's what young people do, but the ones who succeed are those who focus on the education, which is a great GIFT! Also, the achievements and future benefits for your lifestyle will be greatly enhanced if you concentrate on your schooling rather than validation from others. If I could go back and reprogram my life, that's definitely what I'd do. You have a real chance to do that, and at such a young age. Social issues ARE important, especially when you are so young. It's unfortunate that you've experienced a lot of bullying and abuse, which was traumatizing. But now you've moved on,and So good that you are studying at a university! Try to put the bad behind you and remember each day is a new day, an opportunity for success.