Most if not all human beings fear abandonment, it's a normal human fear PianogirlPlays. This is not just a human fear, it's also a fear that exists in many mammels of all kinds. However, even birds have an inate fear of it.

Survival when it comes to both mammels and a lot of living things including human beings is more successful when there is a drive for connection to take place that forms groups. We have to have this deep desire because human beings especially are very fragile for a very long time, much longer compared to other animals and living things.

When someone experiences trauma, or several threats to their sense of personal safety, they can become more stressed and "hypervigilant" and sensitive. It is important to understand that the condition called PTSD takes place because a person has been threatened as we are designed to "react" in order to "survive". When a person struggles with the condition called PTSD, the "normal" threats that challenge all human beings become "magnified".

Each person who struggles will naturally withdraw and want to find a way of gaining a sense of "safety". Having this desire doesn't mean you are a "failure" or a bad person either, it certainly doesn't mean you deserve to be abandoned either. All it really means is that you need to step back and "learn" how to proceed forward in a safer way.

With human beings, what helps and has always helped is "talking" whatever your struggles are with others, first to find out you are not alone, second to learn how to better identify and understand "dangers/threats". As you work on this and find the right people who understand how you genuinely struggle, you will slowly make gains on understanding why you struggle, but to also learn how to slowly overcome the deep fears that you have that "threatened" your personal sense of safety.

What helps a lot is understanding first and foremost is PATIENCE with SELF. As you develop that in yourself, it will help you develop the patience you need so you can work on healing and "learning". As you continue to gain along with being "patient" with self, you will slowly feel less and less abandoned. What is also "good" in that is as you make "gains" you will feel a desire to help others do the same. This is how human beings "survive" and actually get better at surviving.