I didn't know what to call this thread but I need some help trying to find something. My T talked today about me having to become my own good mother, that she had attended a talk where this was discussed and that it struck her as the right way to achieve healing (my words). I know in reality that I do because she won't be there forever and no one else will do this for me but all I hear when those words are spoken is "you need to become your own good mother because you are so awful that there is no way on this earth that anyone else would want to get that close to you or help you out in that department. Even your birth mother didn't want to so you ate on your own with this one."

I plan on having this conversation on Thursday but I know I have read this somewhe and was hoping to try and find it. That Ts need to be careful when suggesting this to clients and that by becoming the good enough mother themselves they can help to get rid of this belief and show by example how it is done.

Anybody else ever read this anywhere and remember where to find it?

Thank you