How do you feel about this Waterbear? I think I might be out of the door if a T said this to me , but do you feel it might be healing? When we have these type of mothers the things they say and do get written very deep into the psyches script , and its trying to find a way to rewrite that. I feel this can be a very individual thing and what works for one person does not necessarily work for another. I have not read either of these two books " Running on empty " and " It's not you - its your Mother " , but they seem to be helpful for people.