Oh yes, this is a very cold way to put it. Mine has said something similar, only she didn't use the term mothering myself (knows I would hate that). She said no one rescued me when they should have and now no one can do that except for myself. I don't actually want rescuing, so it really stung, like she was accusing me of trying to get others to do things for me. I am very self sufficient and don't look for comfort or anything like that. Even though it's really cold, it's true. A therapist cannot effectively or honestly sustain that kind of role in a client's life (and neither can anyone else, when you get down to it). I just don't know why they have to be rude about it, especially if a client never even mentioned it as a need.