I agree it is surprising and hurtful to bring it up if you didn't. I agree with what you say about being rescued
After many years of doing it ourselves, being rescued can feel like undermining all our efforts. We have spoken about that too a few weeks ago and I said I don't want rescuing because that would mean my choice and control etc would be being taken away but that I am desperate to be found, always have been. I get that she can't do this forever and that, ultimately, we have to do it for ourselves, but would it hurt to be allowed to feel what it is like for a short while, for someone to show us how it is done until we are able to do it for ourselves?