I think that it's good to get feedback from others, so don't feel bad for posting and asking for our opinions. even if other people made suggestions, you're still ultimately the one who makes the decisions.

i give you lots of credit for wanting to think this through, talk it over with others. it's obviously very important to you. that's a good point you bring up, about her becoming well and then not wanting a relationship with you. rejection's tough, but you know what? i'm learning myself that anything worthwhile takes risk, so if we need to take risks in order to get what we want.

best wishes,

splash