Aww poor thing do what you can do to keep the kids safe. If you have to encourage her to apply for SSDI right away if she can't hold a job so that your children have some protection tell her to place them on the application. That will make you further mad if she can't hold a job now that you making her condition worst questioning her parenting abilities unless she is totally flown the coo coo's nest .....Remember you can't get blood from a turnip! Maybe you have some rights on her behalf to go over her head and file SSDI, I'm not sure......It really is cheaper to keep it together...You sound just a little insensitive in this post maybe you just in disbelief and these thing happen, so best to make it work it is unfortunate this is on the heels of divorce, a lot heal from indeed