Hello mommyto3furballs: Well... the Skeezyks has a tendency to be a bit snappy as well I'm afraid. I imagine my wife probably feels like everything is her fault as well. My "snappiness" tends, I think, to be linked simply to the fact that I have a short fuse as the saying goes. It doesn't take much to set me off. Sometimes, I think, I can be like a land mine. You don't know you've stepped on it until it blows up under foot. On the other hand, well... I won't even go there... Anyway, in most relationships I imagine there is plenty of blame to go around. In my spouse's & my relationship, I take the lion's share of the blame. I hope you & your husband find some way find common ground...