That DOES sound really tough. I admire you for talking about this with the T, and for having an idea of what you want to do moving forward. I don't think it's necessarily bad that you explained what you want to do. This issue is so painful, so sensitive, that I think T's try very hard to let the client take the lead--to the point that they (the T's) can end up doing nothing at all. Sort of like they figure passively shutting up and listening is preferable to actively saying/doing the wrong thing.

If it were me, I'd give it some more time. Try and be patient. It may be you find talking about it, even flatly, does give you some relief eventually. You may find yourself talking flatly, then suddenly become overwhelmed with emotion, and find that THAT is what gives you relief. You may find that talking about it directly does nothing to help at all, and that healing takes place indirectly, by working on other things in your life.

I'm by no means an expert, but I've personally found the relationship between me and my T to be a powerful factor in dealing with trauma. Is this the first time you've met with this therapist? If so, you may find that things look different down the road when you and the T know each other a little better.

Good luck with everything. I hope you find a solution that works for you.