MKAC do you know i love you bunches . i also know you so well . and thank you for biting your tongue .i know you are. my T was so out of line with how she is dealing with this all. i asked about the meds and she said it will help some but it wont make me happy ,she said i need to start talking about the things that are causing me anxiety, i talked some about family stuff. she really got down on my father again so it was hard to continue . then she brought up everything that was going on with the changes. i was open with her about how it wasnt nessisarily seeing her privately or not but it was the changes . as usual these days i start crying and freaking out . i was crying and i asked if i could just tell her what is making me so upset . she said absolutely. i told her how i remember her saying she was taking only the dedicated hard working clients with her and that i was one of the chosen ones . she for once didnt deny her saying something . i told er even though i was apprehensive about the seeing her privately it felt so good that someone felt like that about me . that finely i was doing something right. then BAM everything changed suddenly i didnt make the grade. i was no longer that client . i was the client that missed sessions and bugged her for an extra sessions and everything blew up. i ws now also the client that was no longer eligible to see her in her private office . i think she actually had tears in her eyes as she said that all this had nothing to do with her feelings for me at all and she still feels the same towards me . that i am hard working brave and dedicated to working in therapy .i told her after all this happened with me and forgetting my session and bugging her for an extra session was what sarted this change . now the story has changed again . she once again she completely understands my confusion. in fact she said it was her confusion in managing this. she realized that this was a bigger undertaking then she thought .it was going to take some time but that eventually i am going to have to see her privately . she just cant take on so many new clients at once .i told her is was not the idea at this point of seeing her at either place that i didnt really care but it was weather she had seen the kind of person i was .and no longer felt the same way . she once again apologized and was really hearing what i said and that she had no idea who badly she had hurt me and confused me . at the end of session 50 min (so much for 35 i need my watch i forgot )she confirmed that definite her feelings about working with me has not changed at all and that im definitely going to eventually HAVE to see her in private ( the story seems to change weekly). once again she ignored that i cant afford to see her privately .now if all the family crud can go away