I get what you mean but I don't think of my T as a stranger.

At the same time, I don't think of him as what? Hmmmm I think I have him placed in a special T Compartment in my head. In this compartment I can love him, idealize him, desire him but can't let him know entirely how I feel, because then the compartment might have to open up and become blended with the rest of me....yeah, I know....

T Compartment, come right in.