I believe in creating a home that works for you. Not a TV home. Dinner doesn't have to be shared, etc.

In my home my husband and I do not eat the same foods. I cook for me, he cooks for him. We hang out in separate places. We go to sleep when we want. We removed obligation from each other, stripped away society's ideas of how we are supposed to act and have created a castle. We both are extremely happy with each other, and enjoy spending every day visiting our best friend (each other). We use total respect in allowing individuality and we agree to disagree on anything that comes up.

People are too restrained by expectation put on them by society -family - church. With expectation comes disappointment.

If you and your brother give each other a lot of space, it may be that you both find you can be wonderful friends.