I hope it doesn't seem we've highjacked your thread.

Another point to make is that if you look at the work in therapy in terms of Outer Child and Inner Child, it makes complete sense. If my ex-T. had viewed it that way, I could have done some awesome work. Fortunately, my current T. is the one who brought these up (and we've read books on it).

I know you feel crushed but it will get better. It's been about 9 months for me. I can now see how much better I am without ex-T. I am happier and others have commented on it. However, there are still painful times. This week has been an emotional rollercoaster because I "get" to see my co-worker get all sorts of extra sessions/phone calls/texts due to her rebellious daughter. It is so painful to watch.

My current therapist is a big believer that you have experiences or meet people who are supposed to teach you something. She keeps asking for the meaning of my time with ex-T. If I had not entered therapy, I would have stuffed all my emotions about my deceased mother and would not have changed. Perhaps ex-T. was just like my mom so I could recreate some drama and recognize that I had needs and most were not met. Then, you could argue that my time was done with that person and I was meant to meet my current T who is helping me process it all, is completely opposite of my mom and is meeting some of my needs.

I hope that you can find a good new T. who can help you through this difficult time. There is no easy way to do it except to let time help. Also, you might consider journaling. I did a lot of that to at least get the emotions out and somewhat organized.