Hi myrtleBlue,

I don't have NPD but my dad may have had it. So just my opinion but the guy you wrote about sounds more like the narcissist, if either of you are, than you. Also it sounds like what you were feeling for him was more lust than love, and I think you really dodged a bullet not getting involved with him. However, it may be that he ignited something in you that you may not know well -- and hence may want to find out more about in a relationship with a partner who really likes the real you, as well as liking sex. ;-)