My son's ex-girlfriend / my grandson's mother has been diagnosed with PTSD, Boarderline Personality disorder, anxiety, sleep issues and maybe depression. I am trying to be supportive but sometimes it is hard. Sometimes I just want her to leave me alone. I am not her mother and I can't choose her over mine. She has been taking her visitation of late and at first I thought this was good but now I'm not so sure. I feel that she missunderstands most of what I say or takes it wrong and takes everything my son says as an acquisition. My son has custody and he isn't making rules to annoy her. They are rules for the baby's well being and our sanity. Things like healthy food and no afternoon nap after 4pm. Lately the baby is playing a weird sort of stunt where he pretends to hit himself then drops to the floor like a tko. She says there is no play fighting when they are out but who knows. It just seems that she has no worry for the consistences. The biggest problem with this is the baby is 2 and big for his age. If he starts to play fight with an other kid he may hurt them.

She is on her third boyfriend since my son so there are people in and out of the baby's life. But gets upset if my son talks to a girl, even thought he hasn't brought anyone home. I realize she is sick but sometimes I just want to scream. I feel like she has taken my life hostage and that I am paying for her parents. I didn't even live in this town when she was young. Her family is no real help and from what I can tell sort of got her diagnosed at 12 but didn't fallow through. She isn't even letting her mother see the baby these days.

If she were mine I would growl at her we would have an argument, then agree that we are very annoying people. If I growl at her she cries. If I don't answer at text I'm mad or something horrible has happened. I shouldn't have to worry about how she will react to things I want to do.

It is all just so very frustrating. My youngest son and daughter moved away because of her. Not that I blame them if I had a place to go I would have moved too. She has caused problems with in our family and my marriage. Not to mention the emotional scaring of at least two of her old boyfriends. My son is so very mad at her. They aren't even talking anymore and she talks to me like I'm in charge. My son has custody not me. Yes they live in my house but he is the custodial parent.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrr

Sorry about the ramble but it all has to go somewhere and here is as good a spot as any