I think it's good that you care for him and feel connected, but keep things in perspective. At this point, he is just an on-line and phone friend. Here's where you really need to look at what you are thinking and doing.

You say you want love and sex in a real relationship. You are now putting off looking for someone else who can actually give that to you because you are trying to help this guy.

Are you fantasizing that he is going to say how you turned his life around and made him able to love and feel whole again? How he appreciates and loves you for all your patience and effort? He won't.

Are you pursuing a guy who is emotionally unavailable for some deeper reason that you are not in touch with? Like maybe it is safer than finding a man who can really give you what you say you want?