I think Skeezyks more accurately put into perspective what I was trying to say. If you can work with a therapist to get to the root of your attraction to older women maybe you can work through it. Also what I was suggesting about incorporating your wife into your fantasy...I wasn't intending to mean distract yourself from your wife to be able to satisfy her but maybe if you place certain pieces of your fantasy into your sexlife with your wife eventually maybe you would come to associate your wife as part of your fantasy and naturally over time the face of your fantasy would switch from pretending your wife was one of the more mature woman you fantasize about to actually seeing your wife as she is when you fantasize... I'm sure that I probably just made it more confusing... I'm sorry if this is not very coherently written. My mind is a bit drifting presently. Hope some of this made sense.