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Originally Posted by stopdog
But why does it matter if they are? Why is said like that is a positive thing? I have been reading some new books by those guys and it always makes me laugh at how they describe things to each other in their textbooks versus if they are talking to clients. Sometimes in their books - they even talk about how important it is to appear one way even if they are not.
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Because authenticity allows for openness and trust. I've left a few therapists who were clearly not being authentic, even very early on. The ones I chose to work with long-term were always very straight with me. They didn't sugar-coat things. They didn't pretend to be something/someone they couldn't be for me. Their consistency in their actions (not just their words) demonstrated authenticity and I respected that.