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Originally Posted by divine1966
So sorry.
I am the very last person to advice in regards to money. Handling money ( or rather not handling) is one of my issues, something i try to improve on. So there is no judgement on your maxing up credit cards or stolen money etc been there done that.
You do need to keep your purse on you at all times when on the flights. Yes thieves are bold. I once had a thieve sticking his arm all the way up to his elbow into my purse in the restaurant. My purse was on the window seal by my table.
I am more concerned with you not having your own money and him controlling it like this. Many or in fact most spouses have combined finances but both have access to accounts. It seems too stressful to live this way. Why aren't you both equally have access to join accounts? He does sound controlling
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Sorry to hear about that thief. I hope that he didn't get away with stealing anything! Did he? It doesn't sound like it as you saw what he did. Thanks for not judging me. Thankfully my name IS STILL on the joint account. IF he ever did that to me, I would raise hell and I wouldn't let him lock me out of it for good! You can trust me on that! There is no way in hell that I'd ever let him go that far for long!
There isn't much that I can do since he is controlling with money. He doesn't trust me with money as he knows that I have taken money from his wallet before out of need and desperation. I've always denied it. Now he hides his money in his car! He has even bragged about it, and when I need it, he says he'll get it from the car. Asshole!
He's good with other things, but he's a tightwad with money usually. He's afraid that I'll spend every penny that we have if he doesn't control the finances. I have to resort to making up lies about the cats needing visits to the vets, or that I have to go to the Drs. to get money at times. I have to be more careful now as he's keeping track of things. I need to get creative at times, ugh!
This sucks! He even pays my credit card bills late at times claiming that I didn't give him the statement. What B.S! I do get that we have bills to pay, but to make mine low on the list of his priorities is infuriating, and it's ruining my credit and causing us to pay late fees every now and then. He's very secretive with money too, and there is nothing that I can do to get him to change, ugh!
Hopefully this free therapy place can help me figure out if it's possible to convince him that what he's doing is wrong and not normal. I hope that whoever stole my money will get bad karma in return for doing so. I hope that they'll get money or something of value stolen from them too sooner or later. Either a sneaky maid stole it while we were in the pool, or someone on the plane stole it when we were sleeping. I'll always put my purse in a locked bag from now on.
Also, I need to look for a job when I get better as I hate having to be put on a budget. He rarely gives me enough for stuff that I need, ugh!