Thank you so much for ur reply Lady... Thank you so much for ur hugs... I appreciate it. I wish I could but I feel too old to move back home (I'm 30) and also my mother is pretty much a saint and she has already rescued enough siblings in her house. I really don't want her to worry about me. This would all be shocking to them cuz he's so nice to them, but if they only knew there is some underlying illness beneath that kindness. His family has a history of mental illness and no one is more understanding than me, but I'm no doctor. I'm gonna have to either walk him into therapy myself or save money to move out..