Yeah I know what you mean, I have been in therapy for yeeearrrs too. I don't know, it may or may not be the case with him once he is "in" the therapy he may have a breakthrough? I don't know that just may be me being hopeful for you!

But once the s**tt hits the fan he will find out, I just hope its nothing too drastic that you both can't recover from. I have lost people in my life due to my bipolar disorder so I know what its like....