I'm guesing this won't get many replies, as I'm thinking maybe not many would be ready to "admit" it even to themselves if they are not yet able to do this.

My post was a question for people to articulate their thoughts though and that is usually why I post questions....as well as the fact that I don't know all the "answers" and there might just be someone somewhere other than me who is helped by or benefits from some of the replies.

I know I've sturggled with this sometimes in the past.