I agree with everyone. If you two are a couple then it's both of your money.

My first husband took everything when he left. He drained out our accounts and maxed out our cards. I was left with our autism son and no money.

He was always one to spend spend spend and I thought if we worked over time and did not need it for bills it should be saved when that got to a certain amount I made an account in my sons name so when I ex left and he thought he left me with nothing I had that money. Then I closed our joint accounts and opened up accounts in my own name.

My second husband likes to spend but over the years and now he does save and asks me if I need money for anything since I can no longer work but I also have my own account and my name is on our joint account

It's a controlling mechanism. If you are to sick to work can u get SSDI ? Or look for a part time job? Maybe pet sitting?

But please never leave your purse alone and you might not want to leave it alone with him either.

Good luck