Hi Goldie, and welcome to PC.

I think that if you don't want to delve into your past, a therapist should not force you to. The therapist should follow your lead with you choosing the topic for each session.

It sounds like it might be helpful if you set some goals for your therapy with your therapist. Perhaps say, "my most important goal is to learn some coping strategies for my anxiety so that I can control my negative behavior toward my family," or whatever it is. There are certainly coping strategies that do not involve delving into your past.

Therapists who specialize in cognitive behavioral therapy (very common these days) tend to favor a goal-oriented approach that doesn't delve into the past and helps with coping strategies. What approach does your therapist take? Even if the therapist is not CBT, they should still be able to help you learn to cope better.

That said, it could be you will want to work on some of your issues from the past once you have got the immediate problem under control. Or maybe not. There were things I didn't want to talk about or share with my therapist when we first started, but later, as I got to know and trust him, and gained more self insight, I did bring those topics up. I found it was essential for my healing to deal with them. I think only you know what are the right issues to deal with, so only you know whether harm would be done or not. Listen to what your insides are telling you. And that may change.

Good luck, and I hope you keep posting here.