Well - it comes with being ostracized after the old ones are gone, if not before. At least it is for me. If they have any kind of financial hold over you, which I think is part of granites issue, you're kinda screwed unless you can resolve that. I had other relatives who were willing to step in and take care of her, be there for her. My only excuse is, she didn't abuse them like she did me. She was nicer to them because she "had" to be. I spent years worried she WAS going to come after me financially. Or that we were gonna end up on judge Judy.

Then I realized she had probably cheated me out of more than I had ever cheated her and that she wasn't willing to address that. That's our ace in the hole. The truth will get them to back off. You don't have to go to the relatives with it. I don't care that my cousins and aunts etc think I'm a selfish creep. They had a mom. I did not. I'm in therapy. They are not. They have families. I don't.

What's so weird is my aunts calling me now, like trying to take my mother's place in bossing me around. In their effing dreams.