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Old Jun 02, 2016, 04:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Argonautomobile View Post
Sounds like he just sucks at replying to e-mails. Some people are just like that. I think if it had anything to do with you, or if there were anything you could do about it, he would have outlined some general guidelines ("rules"). The "put 'reply' in the subject line" guideline would be helpful, except some people don't follow their own guidelines. It can be very frustrating. In my experience, the only thing you can do when someone else just sucks at something and it's beyond your ability to control or influence is either accept that they suck or find someone else.
Agreed--I get the sense he has good intentions, that he might think he'll respond to e-mails, but then gets involved in other things, etc. I'll admit I can be kind of like that, too. If e-mail is important to you, then you may need to consider finding someone else. Is he OK with out-of-session phone calls? Maybe he's just not an e-mail person, and it would be better to leave him voice mail if you're stressed. Or does he text? For example, I've learned my marriage counselor looks at his phone much more often than his e-mail, so if it's semi-urgent, I'll text him. And if I want a response from T if it's during the days she's off, text is more likely to get a response. But if it's a day she's in the office, e-mail is better.

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Originally Posted by Argonautomobile View Post
My T, for instance, is constitutionally incapable of being on time. He's late, we talk about it, he apologizes, he's late again. I get angry about it, he apologizes, he's late again. I get depressed about it, he apologizes, then he's late again. The man could not be on time to save his life. It's just something he sucks at. But I don't want to find a new T, so I deal with it and don't even mention it anymore.
You don't happen to see my marriage counselor by any chance, do you?
Thanks for this!
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