Well, the thing with 'transference' or having 'feelings' for ones T means that on one level one DOES want something more. Most of us realise at the same time that that more would ultimately be destructive and not in anyones best interests. I guess most of us think that if our feelings were at least reciprocated (without any boundaries being crossed) it would be the best of both worlds. Perhaps being equally desired is what we want most of all. On a therapeutic level I doubt it would be ideal but that doesn't stop us from wanting it. If T is not experienced and professional enough to accept your feelings and make you feel ok about them then she might not be the right t for you...