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Originally Posted by -jimi-
My best friend acted weird. Most days she forgets and is fine. But if there is conflict she always drags out the aspergers. Like I'm nuts and she is fine so everything is my fault.
Worst is volunteering. I had to tell once because if I was sent there through the autism team I would have work insurance, otherwise not. Once out there I was not allowed doing any important tasks anymore. It was like they thought I was a danger or would screw up completely. Being treated like that was quite bad even if they weren't mean about it.
I haven't told others but my friend tells everyone because she doesn't understand it is a thing you don't go round spreading. So far I haven't had any negative comments from her friends that she told.
If I was to tell family they would totally deny deny deny.
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Can you tell your friend that your having autism is very personal and it is not something she should go around telling people? Ask her to please not do that? Maybe tell her that you are the only one who should tell people and only when it is necessary for some good reason. My family will not talk to me about autism; they have it, too. I think that we should not tell anyone unless they have a real, true need to know about it.
I have two male friends and I have told them about it. I am not sure it was the right thing to do. I guess I will eventually know. I am not so sure how we know when it's the right thing to do but these are fairly new friends and we are getting to know each other. One is a penpal and one lives where I do and both are very kind people. My therapist said to not ever let anyone into my life unless they are kind. Maybe that's a good rule to follow for all of us!
If anyone else has input on this, I'd love to hear it. Thank you.
PrairieCat