Not getting your needs met, being constantly disappointed, yes these things make a bad marriage. I'm in a similar situation as you. My husband provides financially, though, and pretended to want to please me (which drove me to stress overload).

When you have a final straw moment, you'll get out. But, if you can try to communicate and get help, you may be able to make the relationship better.

I made my needs very clear and said I would end the marriage unless we could fix our problem, but we just couldn't. He thinks he tried somewhat-- too little too late.

Maybe marriage counseling for you both?