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Well, this is what dad did with my T...sent them out again...and here I thought they were joining me for me...the good news is it is working. They are all supporting me now and things are much better all around but why must it always happen like this?

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I think that your therapy and open willingness to have family members participate has had a wonderful impact on your father's opinion of therapy and a positive impact on your own therapy! That is awesome. It seems like when your dad is unsure of himself he looks around for support. Could you possibly be open with him about this feeling of not trusting your opinion? Can you ask him why?

I hope you don't think I'm pushing you because I really get why this bugs you. I have had similar issues in my family of origin and was never really able to work it out. My parents are now both dead. My brother was sent as an emisary to me on many occasions because they "couldn't" talk to me! There were a lot of topics I couldn't talk about to my family either.

With respect to the feelings of rejection, could it be that you feel like you can't have it all? T, Father, Mother, Brother? I know that it's hard for me to put T and my husband in the same sentence so I just wonder if you could be having a similar reaction.

It really seems like an awful lot is going on so take gentle care.