I had a T as a kid who I couldn't communicate with. I remember sitting there in silence until they got fed up and said that it was pointless if I wouldn't talk. This went on for a while as I remember but my memory is so bad from that time it may only have been a handful of sessions until they gave up on me.

17 years later I am just starting to realise that this may not have been my fault. That as a T, especially one supposed to be dealing with adolescents, it was their responsibility to try to communicate with me. Not once did they try to do anything rather than sit and talk.

My point is, if this T is not working for your kids then no T may be a better option than it not working if it leads to them thinking it is their fault they cannot communicate. If it doesn't work out then you have to tell them that it wasn't their fault, it was the Ts job to learn to communicate with your kids, not the other way round. Does she do anything other than try to talk? My current T does play therapy and art therapy and it really helps me. I wish they had tried this with me all those years ago and I might not be here now.