It is so tough. Can you ask for sessions to be recorded? I don't know what your relationship with your kids is and I don't want to pry or offer anything that might be unsuitable either. Therapy as an adult is hard enough but as a teen I found it impossible. My relationship with my parents had all but disintegrated by this point for me so I had no one fighting my corner with my T. Just the school doing their bit.

Can you search for Ts for them without them having to keep trying them out or maybe look for recommendations from other healthcare providers or educational establishments? Just a couple of suggestions but hugs to you and good for you for wanting the best for your kids.