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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I'm really traditional about weddings. If it were me, I would want to have the children there (his and yours) and whatever family and friends who can come.
I made a wedding for my sister in my house, her second wedding. It only cost a few hundred dollars for sheet cake and sandwich platters. I even put cheap bunches of flowers in vases from my house and made cute center pieces on folding tables. My family are musicians so it was a big jam session. The bride played drums!
It is a coming together of two people and two families.
But-- you can definitely elope and do whatever you want.
Honestly, ordering cake and platters took minutes. I moved the living room furniture away and put up card tables. It was really nice.
And talk about embarrassing relatives! If I thought my family was strange, the groom's family was much worse! We laughed.
Congratulations and enjoy whatever you do. Oh yes, and you have to invite all of us on PC  |
Thank you Tish, I understand what you are saying.
I am also traditional about weddings. My daughter had the most beautiful wedding and now my nephew is having one. I love weddings. I had one, and so had my fiancée ( his was full of drama though the same way his marriage was).
The thing is we don't feel the need to have traditional wedding. We would only do it as not to upset some people who in fact are constantly upset about something anyways! We just don't think it's good enough reason to have a commotion. Plus as I mentioned with the way events are planned for this year and with a lot of travel between relatives it cannot happen this year. And we aren't waiting till next year.
We make good money and we can afford cake and stuff and then some ( we host holidays often) but we feel money would be better spent on things we want, which isn't a celebration.
If I did what you described ( such as a reception even if inexpensive) it would be again to please other people.
And that's what we both often do. He more than I ( he was raised with abusive father and subsequently lived in abusive marriage), my fiancée is the type of man who is strong in a professional world but lacks strength in personal life, often acts as a doormat and is often pushed around. I don't want him to go through the wedding because he is afraid his family will get pissed. They might get pissed regardless what he does.
I initially was going to do it because I worried his sister will be displeased with him. But then we discussed more and then we just don't feel we need to do it.
I just need support in it so I don't stress out
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