I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I consider myself bi, although I haven't been with a woman in a very long time (been married 19 years) but y'know it's still very much a part of who I am... hubby knows, and is actually pretty ok about it as sometimes he'll tease me by pointing out a beautiful woman and say "check HER out!" or something.

I told t a long time ago - it was really hard for me to tell her, it was within the first 6 months I was seeing her I think, but she is great about it - I even shared with her a very very personal poem I wrote to J who was my first love.... and she thought it was so beautiful... she is straight, but I am pretty sure she is trained in LGBT issues, she has that as one of her specialties on her online profile. Anyway she's been absolutely great when I've needed to talk about it.

I am so grateful that our very own couch is a safe place to talk about this!