You definitely are bi. I really am a bit sad that since my SO is my first ever (and likely only ever) sexual partner, and we are monogamous, I might never ever get to explore my attraction to women, especially as I'm really a lot more attracted to women...

I'm really lucky that my SO (who is a cisgender heterosexual white male) is very understanding and accepting.

I often wonder if I would be happier in his Scandinavian nation where even the church is LGBT-affirming though of course I have reservations because I'm Asian and his mother believes in the racist stereotype of me potentially being a 'gold-digger'...and because the Scandinavian nation in question isn't as non-racist and inclusive as they're portrayed to be.

I told my Ts too, eventually. It was really hard for me. The first one was also about 6 months into therapy, but she asked some bi-ignorant questions ("How do you know if you've never been with a woman?") and I basically ended uo writing a timeline of my same-gender attractions.

She put in my chart that I am bisexual and that's how current T knows (they're colleagues).

I don't think T is trained in LGBT specific issues and I'm scared to see a counsellor in an LGBT organisation because I'm terrified of biphobia and it takes forever to build up trust... yet I'm frustrated that T doesn't sound LGBT-affirming, she's neutral I feel...

T told me she has LGB friends but that doesn't mean she's trained in LGB specific issues and while I "pass" for being heterosexual, I really struggle a lot with internalised homophobia due to how hateful my nation can be and I desperately wish T can help with that rather than just telling me "the bone of the issue is you don't accept yourself".

She means well but how the heck do I accept myself as a Queer Person of Colour when positive potrayals of LGBT people are censored in my nation and I've not found a home in local messageboards... I'm rambling, sorry.

Wow, you're so brave for showing your T such a personal poem!

I'm grateful too!