Hi. I am having a difficult time right now related to the actions of my good friend. Feeling a LOT of anxiety right now, having a hard time focusing on anything else.

I've been friends her with her for 8 years and we work together. We have traveled together, our husbands know each other. So, we are close.

I noticed she became distant about 3 months ago. I asked her if she was ok. She said she was busy. About 2 weeks later, I asked her again. She snapped at me "why do you keep asking me that!". So, I backed off and figured it was something she was going through. She has still been distant. She even ignored my birthday two weeks ago.

So, on Thursday I sent her a text (I felt too uncomfortable talking to her after she snapped at me the last time) and said i noticed a distance between us, and if it is something i did to let me know so i can repair it.

Her response: "I don't think there is anything to repair. I think we just have different personalities. I feel that when you feel insecure, you sacrifice my feelings to make yourself feel better. It bothers me, so I decided to spend less time together to prevent it. I still enjoy our time together. I just felt it was best to take a few minutes apart so I could feel better". I responded that I never, ever meant to do anything to make her feel bad or sacrifice her feelings. Her response "I know you didn't. Thats why I didn't bring it up.". I asked if we could talk. She said she wasn't home. I replied that I would like to meet so we can talk, that I want our friendship to grow, and that I would like to know what I did so I can not do it again. I would NEVER want anyone to feel badly. I will gladly own up if my behavior or words were unkind.

I have been searching our past interactions for the last 6 months, and I honestly have no idea what she is referring to. I don't know what I ever did to make her feel badly.

So, I called her that night after I didn't hear from her. No answer. I texted onel last time yesterday morning asking if we could get together. Nothing. I have been crying on and off ever since.

I don't know where to go from here. My anxiety is crazy high and I can't stop thinking about it. I know the best thing is to just leave her alone. I'm starting to get angry, because I feel its unfair how she dropped this in my lap with no explanation and not willing to talk about it.

We work together tomorrow and, honestly, I'm scared to death to see her. It feels awkward. I'm devastated that she would sandbag and then abandon me - thats how I feel.

I need to get past this anxiety, sadness, and fear in order to face her tomorrow. Any advice? I really try to be sensitive to others in what I say and do, so this whole thing is a shock to me.