I became very close to a friend when she and I were both unhappy in our marriages. We were both struggling and found in each other the company we needed at that time. We were close, we said we loved each other and we spent a great deal of time together. She ended up leaving her husband before I left mine, and when she did that, our relationship changed. She was distant, less responsive and we didn't see each other much. I was hurt and tried to find out why, but often she just avoided me. I backed off until it became apparent that she was actively avoiding me, while continuing to be friends with my now ex-husband. She would borrow my car to go on a wine-tasting trip.... but not invite me. Or she would meet my ex at our house to go to yoga together, but not bother to say hi. I was hurt and angry and confronted her about her actions (I mean really, you act like you dislike me, but you borrow my cars?). What she said to me was that she was at a place in her life where she was focusing on the positive. Ultimately, I took that to mean that our prior closeness came about when we needed each other at very negative and toxic times in our lives. She reached a place of peace, when leaving her husband, while I was still struggling with reaching the conclusion to leave my husband. For her, I feel I was still stuck in a more negative place and she was distancing herself from that to allow herself to move on from that place in her life. It hurt, I still in some ways resent that she wasn't there for me when I needed her, but I let the friendship go as at this point, it now represented something toxic to me.

I think it's true that people come into your life for various reasons, when you need that friendship, and when your needs change, the friendship may also change. And sometimes, your friend reaches that place before you do. I will always miss the friendship I had with her, but after one attempt about a year later to repair things, I realized that I didn't need a friend who was only there when she needed something. I want friends in my life who I can count on when times are tough. And I have to recognize that toxic friendships are unlikely to last.

I'm not saying this all applies to your friendship, but what may apply, is the saying about people come into your life for a reason. Maybe her need for you has been filled and she is growing away from you. I imagine how you handle this change will determine if she remains a friend that you can enjoy your upcoming trip with.