I'm so sorry you lost your beautiful little baby girl. Of course you are suffering horrible heartache after such a tragedy. I can't imagine what it must be to have to endure that. I can imagine what a huge empty place is left behind. It's something that's going to take time until you can feel better. Accept for now that you are mourning and in deep pain, and it's alright to feel that way, to let it happen because it has to for you to get through it.

Have you tried the group idea suggested by your counselor? It sounds like he/she has a grief support group in mind where you would be with others feeling similar to how you are feeling as well as some who are a little further down the road and can give you hope and tell you about their experiences too. I think it sounds like a wonderful idea. I hope you will consider letting yourself try it out.

gentle hugs to you, your husband, and family