I can honestly say, counseling will not work if both parties are not willing to make it work. I tried 5 times with my ex H. That last time, I was guilted into it after I had asked for a divorce and I was bullied by both him and the therapist and ended it. Esp at the point that my ex threw a laundry basket against the wall because I wasn't out of bed yet.
Both my therapist and psychiatrist said 'get out'. So I did. It had been a long time coming.
If you are experiencing abuse, verbal or physical, I strongly suggest leaving. It's not worth it for your mental well being to stay.