Thank you guys for the response. I find it good to know see other peoples views as I am a loner in this and only have my opinion because I am not allowed to speak to anyone according to my wife I am not allowed to speak to others but I find this forum comforting. I just want to say that I am having trouble dealing with this because this is not who I am or was rather. See my wife treated me way worse than this. she controlled who I can have in my life. I had to cut people out of my life who were just my friends whom I never had any feelings for and I fought with her for over a year because I could not understand why I hsd to cut them out. Just when we got married when I came to terms with what she wanted she changed just like that and now she feels she can do what she wants and apparantly so can I yet she keeps on questioning me when I in fact am not even contacting people and going out. Anyway because of what she wanted folrom me back then has made me to be how I am right now, insecure, scared, anxious all the time. And quite frankly mostly because of this friend. She does not even hang or chat with any other friends. The other evening I said her friend should come in and we all hung out but her friend left home early. Which is quite odd because they usually stay up till very late when they are hanging together. I mean she chats to the friend everyday, the friend phones her when I am not home and also wants to visit all the time when I am not home. My wife and I used to be together when we visit friends but now its not like that anymore. I respect your guys opinions and experiences as it means a lot to me and my one sided perspective. I will try and give her space but I am just not used to this and I told her she can't just throw this on me and expect me to go along with it knowing what she did ti me was way worse. I have become less attached and not care so much as I think it helps me get detached because I am too attached. I am hoping for better things to come. Thank you guys hope you are having a fantastic day.