He got defensive, tried to blame me for his actions, then apologized, said it didn't mean anything and would never do it again. Said he loved me and didn't want to lose me, that I was the best thing that ever happened to him.

He's been married several times. I think he believes our marriage has an expiration date. When he does things like this, it almost feels like he is trying to sabotage it. He doesn't have a lot of insight