Someone else said something about your friend feeling things were unbalanced in the friendship, and I agree with that assessment. This seems to strongly indicate that:
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Originally Posted by CrzyCatLady4
Her response: "I don't think there is anything to repair. I think we just have different personalities. I feel that when you feel insecure, you sacrifice my feelings to make yourself feel better. It bothers me, so I decided to spend less time together to prevent it. I still enjoy our time together. I just felt it was best to take a few minutes apart so I could feel better".
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Withdrawal makes sense if she's feeling drained and overspent. She was apparently convinced that talking about it would not help, so putting more pressure on her will make her withdraw further.
It may seem cold to talk in terms of benefit/deficit, but it's healthy and reasonable for people to evaluate that balance and take action when they end up having too great a deficit. It's self-protection, and in more extreme cases, self-preservation.
I'm quite curious to know what she is thinking about when she says, "You sacrifice my feelings to make yourself feel better."
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Originally Posted by CrzyCatLady4
I have been searching our past interactions for the last 6 months, and I honestly have no idea what she is referring to. I don't know what I ever did to make her feel badly.
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Maybe it's an issue that has been more long-term, or maybe it's simply not logged, whatever it is. It could be that part of it does come down to "different personalities" - in other words, the fit is no longer a good one (or was not matched enough to maintain the friendship indefinitely). It doesn't mean either person is bad, just that there's not a high enough level of compatibility, or maybe some key incompatibilities.
I think not pushing her is the best thing. Whatever you do, don't mention it at work, and try to act as normal as possible.